Law of Pygmalion

 Pygmalion adalah seorang pemuda yang berbakat seni memahat. Ia sungguh
piawai dalam memahat patung. Karya ukiran tangannya sungguh bagus.
Tetapi bukan kecakapannya itu menjadikan ia dikenal dan disenangi
teman dan tetangganya.

Pygmalion dikenal sebagai orang yang suka berpikiran positif. Ia
memandang segala sesuatu dari sudut yang baik. Apabila lapangan di
tengah kota becek, orang-orang mengomel.Tetapi Pygmalion berkata,
"Untunglah, lapangan yang lain tidak sebecek ini."

Ketika ada seorang pembeli patung ngotot menawar-nawar
harga,kawan-kawan Pygmalion berbisik, "Kikir betul orang itu." Tetapi
Pygmalion berkata, "Mungkin orang itu perlu mengeluarkan uang untuk
urusan lain yang lebih perlu".

Ketika anak-anak mencuri apel dikebunnya, Pygmalion tidak mengumpat.
Ia malah merasa iba, "Kasihan,anak-anak itu kurang mendapat pendidikan
dan makanan yang cukup di rumahnya."

Itulah pola pandang Pygmalion. Ia tidak melihat suatu keadaan dari
segi buruk, melainkan justru dari segi baik. Ia tidak pernah berpikir
buruk Tentang orang lain; sebaliknya, ia mencoba membayangkan hal-hal
baik dibalik perbuatan buruk orang lain.

Pada suatu hari Pygmalion mengukir sebuah patung wanita dari kayu yang
sangat halus. Patung itu berukuran manusia sungguhan. Ketika sudah
rampung, patung itu tampak seperti manusia betul. Wajah patung itu
tersenyum manis menawan,tubuhnya elok menarik.

Kawan-kawan Pygmalion berkata, "Ah,sebagus-bagusnya patung, itu cuma
patung, bukan isterimu." Tetapi Pygmalion memperlakukan patung itu
sebagai manusia betul.

Berkali-kali patung itu ditatapnya dan dielusnya. Para dewa yang ada
di Gunung Olympus memperhatikan dan menghargai sikap Pygmalion, lalu
mereka memutuskan untuk memberi anugerah kepada Pygmalion,yaitu
mengubah patung itu menjadi manusia betul.

Begitulah, Pygmalion hidup berbahagia dengan isterinya itu yang konon
adalah wanita tercantik di seluruh negeri Yunani.

Nama Pygmalion dikenang hingga kini untuk menggambarkan dampak pola
berpikir yang positif. Kalau kita berpikir positif tentang suatu
keadaan atau seseorang,seringkali hasilnya betul-betul menjadi
positif.

Misalnya,
* Jika kita bersikap ramah terhadap seseorang, maka orang itupun akan
menjadi ramah terhadap kita.
* Jika kita memperlakukan anak kita sebagai anak yang cerdas, akhirnya
dia betul-betul menjadi cerdas.
* Jika kita yakin bahwa upaya kita akan berhasil, besar sekali
kemungkinan upaya dapat merupakan separuh keberhasilan.

Dampak pola berpikir positif itu disebut dampak Pygmalion.Pikiran kita
memang seringkali mempunyai dampak fulfilling prophecy atau ramalan
tergenapi, baik positif maupun negatif.

* Kalau kita menganggap tetangga kita judes sehingga kita tidak mau
bergaul dengan dia, maka akhirnya dia betul-betul menjadi judes.
* Kalau kita mencurigai dan menganggap anak kita tidak jujur,akhirnya
ia betul-betul menjadi tidak jujur.
* Kalau kita sudah putus asa dan merasa tidak sanggup pada awal suatu
usaha, besar sekali kemungkinannya kita betul-betul akan gagal.

Pola pikir Pygmalion adalah berpikir, menduga dan berharap hanya yang
baik tentang suatu keadaan atau seseorang. Bayangkan, bagaimana besar
dampaknya bila kita berpola pikir positif seperti itu. Hidup akan
menjadi baik kalau kita memandangnya dari segi yang baik. Berpikir
baik tentang diri sendiri.
Berpikir baik tentang orang lain. Berpikir baik tentang keadaan.
Berpikir baik tentang Tuhan. Hidup menjadi indah.
Seperti Pygmalion, begitulah.

MAKE SURE YOU ARE PYGMALION and the world will be
  filled with positive people only............how
  nice!!!!

Smoking is a habitual tendency

I used to be a smoker. I tried so many times to quit but always failed. it keeps me quit for few days and then being a smoker again.

I tried so many times to reduce the number of stick i consumed everyday.. for example just 1 every morning. but when you have emotional issue, it backed and backed again. so  i think you can't really quit by reducing the number of stick you consume.

after so many times with failures, my observation about smoking.. it;s actually not an addiction to Nikotine that makes problem for you to quit. it;'s more on the habitual tendencies. like it's a habit that you have to smoke after meals, as it it tastes so perfect after eating something spices, or as if there's something missing when you drink cofee without a cigarette.

You need to find a good reason to quit, and just a reason might not be enough  too, you might need to find a tool too, a tool in order to manipulate your mind, to provoke your mind or to cheat on your mind.

Few things I tried before I'm able to quit:

1. My strong reason for quitting is my beloved Daughter .. so i keep on thinking of a reason why I need to be healthy.. why I have to quit smoking. this is the strongest reason for me to quit.
2. Relaxation & Visualization of how you might be healthy. i did visualization every time before I sleep on how i want to be strong & healthy
3. Stop  the habitual tendencies, those includes visiting places you used to be when having breakfast, lunch, or might remind you on those fantasies of how delicious smoking is.. and those includes say no to any offer..
4. When there's a huge temptation to smoke.. this is time when you need to be mindful, you might consider cheating, provoking or switching your mind.. for example when the temptation is so huge..you may do yourself interview of why you need to smoke.. or long distance walking.

Good Visualisation- Exercise has impact on your brain

This picture was copied from Lifehack.org in which it has a good visualisation on how exercise will impact your brain.

Happiness Quiz

The following Quiz can be used for you to assess what happiness really mean to you

¤ Management ¤ Success ¤ Motivation

See the end of this quiz for quiz answers.

1. Happiness is:________________________________________________________________

2. Happiness is not:_____________________________________________________________

3. Who is responsible for your happiness:___________________________________________

4. Who is not responsible for your happiness:________________________________________

5. It is possible to be happy all of the time. True/False.

6. Happiness is: inside-out - outside-in.

7. If you had more:___________________________________________ you could be happier.

8. When you:___________________________________________________you will be happy.

9. Stuff can make you happy. True/False.

10. Happiness is: more, bigger, better. True/False.

11. Most people are reasonably happy most of the time. True/False

12. You will be happy when:_____________________________________________________

13. If you are successful, you will be happy. True/False.

14. If you have your health, you will be happy. True/False.

15. __________________________________________is getting in the way of your happiness.

16. Hanging on to old emotional baggage prevents happiness. True/False.

17. People who are happy smile a lot. True/False.

18. Living in the present moment is not important to be happy. True/False.

19. Happiness is easy to achieve. True/False.

20. One of the biggest things missing in people's lives who are not happy is:

_____________________________________________________________________________

21. Other people can make you unhappy: True/False.

22. Un-managed stress is a cause of unhappiness. True/False.

23. People who are happy have no regrets: True/False.

24. Happy people always want more of something: True/False.

25. Unhappy people are never satisfied with:_________________________________________

26. Happy people see other's as teachers: True/False.

27. Unhappy people tend to see themselves as:_______________________________________

28. One of the most important things to do to find lasting happiness is:

_____________________________________________________________________________

29. Most people take themselves too seriously: True/False.

30. Happy people have just as many problems as unhappy people: True/False.

31. The power of choice contributes to a person's happiness because:

_____________________________________________________________________________

32. Happy people lead with their head and let their heart follow: True/False.

33. Unhappy people would rather be right than happy: True/False.

34. Accepting differences in others is not important to your happiness: True/False.

35. Happy people are always doing, going, learning: True/False.

36. A lack of patience is a sign of:_________________________________________________

37. Happy people have more fun in life than unhappy people: True/False.

38. Unhappy people believe that other people need to be fixed in some way: True/False.

39. Happy people are interested in others and listen to them: True/False.

40. Something is always missing in the: happy person - unhappy person.

41. Unhappy people tend to:______________________ in life.

42. Happy people are always:_____________________________________________________

43. Unhappy people never:_______________________________________________________

44. Self-disclosure is a trait of:_____________________________people.

45. A lack of forgivenes is a trait of many unhappy people. True/False.

46. Happy people live for:________________________________

47. Unhappy people live for:______________________________

48. You know someone who would benefit from taking this quiz. True/False

49. You learned what as a result of this quiz:_________________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________

50. You are happy you finished this quiz: True/False

SCORING

50 correct answers..........You should be giving the quiz. 
45-50 correct answers..........You are happy with most of your life.

40-45 correct answers..........You have it together unless you lied about some of your answers.

35-40 correct answers...........Read my book: The Road to Happiness. It will help you.

25-30 correct answers...........You live in fantasy-land most of the time. Get a life.

25 or less correct answers......You have really big problems. Get into therapy.

Correct Answers: Happiness Quiz

Keep in mind that the answers to several of the questions are subjective. In many cases there is no right or wrong answer only - a best or better answer. This quiz is not designed to give you an in-depth explanation for each answer but rather to stimulate your thinking. With this in mind let's take a look at what I believe - are some of the vital issues in the area of happiness.

1. Up to you.

2. Possessions, your address, success, power, fame, good looks, up to other people.

3. You are.

4. Anyone else.

5. True.

6. Inside-out.

7. You fill in the blank.

8. Again you fill in the answer.

9. False.

10. False.

11. False.

12. Your turn.

13. False.

14. False.

15. Your turn.

16. True.

17. True.

18. False.

19. True.

20. The willingness to take the responsibility for their life and happiness.

21. False.

22. True.

23. False.

24. False.

25. Anything.

26. True.

27. Victims.

28. Take responsibility for your happiness.

29. True.

30. True.

31. They get to chose their outcomes, attitudes, happiness.

32. False.

33. True.

34. False.

35. False.

36. A lack of trust, faith.

37. True.

38. True.

39. True.

40. Unhappy person.

41. Complain a lot.

42. Interested in others, listening, concerned.

43. Take responsibility for their station, position, circumstances.

44. Happy.

45. True.

46. The present moment.

47. Yesterday, tomorrow, always.

48. Up to you.

49. Up to you.

50. Up to you.

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Can money Buy happiness

Can Money Buy happiness? this forbes articles is a good one, as it contains researches which were done by 3 professors to define how happiness could be boosted. http://www.forbes.com/sites/learnvest/2015/06/24/can-money-buy-happiness-3-researchers-weigh-in/5/

There's another article which I think also worth reading, in which they did survey on employees on how earning will impact job satisfaction.

"Glassdoor examined other job attributes it surveyed and found that employees valued them in the following order: “culture and values” at No. 1, “career opportunities,” at No. 2, “senior leadership” at No. 3, “work-life balance” at No. 4, and then compensation and benefits finally at No. 5, just above “business outlook.” Nunez recognizes that culture and values are a kind of catch-all category that includes important things like morale, employee recognition and transparency with an organization". source (http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2015/06/18/money-doesnt-buy-happiness-at-work-new-study-says/)

It's About Choice

we face choices everyday, sometimes we wonder whether we have made the correct decision or not, sometime choices we made might fit our ego, knowledge, understanding, and beneficial to us at that time.

Decision we made would probably harm others, couldn’t be easily accepted, but remember that one decision might not feed the whole community, there will be pro and const for sure.

Choice is the illution of causalities, collections of causalities either from our current life, previous life, and could probably from unknown era of this conciousness. It’s all about what will come and go from this conciousness, we should accept all consequeces to be our next causalities.

So no worries of making decision, whatever will come it will come, as long as you made the decision with right understanding.

Stop Travelling, Be here and Now

There’re some situation where our body are with our beloved ones, but we lose appreciation to the togetherness.

All the truth seeker, those well known as GOD seeker, searching for happiness from the truth, reading for truth in books, searching in sacred places, thinking about it in their mind,debating it without realizing the true nature of truth. is it the real truth they got? or just an ego consumption?

Our mind has been traveling anywhere at anytime, started from unknown era to countless time.. this is so exhausted.

This is the reason that we need to rest our mind, Stop it from traveling.. just be here at present moment, realizing all phenomena inside and outside our consciousness.

Happiness is not there, it’s not merely in those mountainous & beautiful places, it’s not in the past, nor in the future, but it’s here & now. it’s so real..as real as when we realize it.

Being mindfull & be happy